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Life on the flip: collating three essays on the paradox of agency.
I came across an interesting new phrase the other day: ego-syntonic. It describes a state of being in which your behaviors, values and feelings are in harmony with your ideal self-image. It is not difficult for modern people to grasp this concept. We invest a great deal of time in cultivating our self-image, and we are keenly aware of how well we are doing on our own scorecard.
In three essays published in March, I challenged the idea that an ego-syntonic state is an ideal pursuit. Not necessarily because I think it is a bad idea to be “at peace” with oneself; but rather because I am uncertain that we have the wisdom to know what form of self attains a true state of fulfillment.
In “Beast of Burdens” I explore the idea that the freedom to pursue our desires leads us to be subjugated to the outcomes we fabricate.
Then, in “Burdens of the Beast” I discuss the ego-centric nature of our expectations frameworks.
Finally, in “Bend and Brake” I examine the seeming inseparability of beast from burden, and suggest how this fiendish bond can be broken.
I welcome you to read the essays with an open mind and to consider if my chain of logic is sound. If so, I ask that you give my closing argument candid consideration.
J
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